Decisions DECISIONS!

So I haven't updated in a long time and I've been going back and forth in my head whether I should delete this blog or keep it for memory purposes. Lately I've just been focused on progression and trying to finish things that I've started so I directed my blogging life to my Womens Online Blogazine NOBOIZALLOWED .. I've been creating such a great platform that I don't want to stop. I also don't want to involve myself in 10 different things and only be able to give 10% of my energy to each project. I've turned down great opportunities but I no longer want to work for others and put my energy into their projects. I just really want to focus on my ideas and show the world what I can do. That doesn't mean I won't help others. In fact I LOVE giving and helping others but now I feel like it's time to pick and choose.

Soooo..I've been working hard with http://www.noboizallowed.com/ If you haven't already check that out. Like us on facebook (to the right) and follow it on @_NoBoizAllowed .. Cool topics, EyeCandy, Giveaways, etc.

I've enrolled back in school. =) This summer so far has been pretty fun but I'm beginning to realize some things (such as my dreams) are a little more important that my party life. Although I've said it time and time again..but when you're out partying for so long, things get old and faces don't change. I go out for celebrations and girls night out every chance I get though because I have to enjoy these moments given to me. But I'm working on my BUCKET LIST! I look at that and just get inspired. lol.

My friends, family, and boyfriend are all great and healthy. OH and I cut my hair..like really chopped it off. It's now a bob but I'm gonna go shorter in the back this week so it'll be an A-LINE. =)))

WHAT have YOU been up to? Tell me everything. I miss all of you. Seriously

Friendship Tips

(photo courtesy of: nbc and google.com)

Good friends are often hard to find so when you find one, cherish him/her. In times of need, we sometimes don't know how to be there. Doing or saying the wrong thing can bring a bit of distance. I've always thought as friends we should have a holiday. Friendship Day. Once a year, plan a trip, sleepover, gift exchange etc. Just simply appreciate your friendship.

Essence Magazine gave us a few tips on What Not to Do.
-Don't try to cheer her up - there's nothing more irritating, because it makes you feel dismissed. Instead ask how she feels.

-Avoid platitudes like - God never gives us more than we can handle. They can sound preachy. It's better to speak from the heart.

-Don't say "I know just what you're going through" because you don't. Say instead, I can only imagine what you're going through.

-Avoid saying "call me if you need me" instead offer specific forms of help. "I'd like to bring dinner over tonight" No one likes to ask for help.

Let's Toast to LIFE!

Hey! I missed you all. I have been everywhere. From working, to keeping NoBoizAllowed running, to going out with my friends. Trying to balance life and still come out on top. I have a new way of looking at things. I've realized that going out and seeing my friends bring more happiness to my life so I've managed to see them atleast once a week and it's turned out to be 3-4 times a week. lol. I'm not complaining.

We get so consumed with working and relationships that we forget who we once were and we forget that we can still have fun and do our own thing. I encourage you all to make time for your friends and loved ones. Don't spend too much time under your man because once he leaves, who do you have? You'll be trying to creep back to your friends. Don't spend so much time working because if you have nothing to show for it, it'll only cause more stress and overwhelm you.

Lets practice celebrating LIFE. We truly only have one to live.

For the past month or two, I've been celebrating LIFE and toasting to LIFE. It doesn't make any sense not to. Join me!

we seen Chrisette Michele in Concert and she is AMAZING!!!!!

ARE YOU DOWN!?

(photo credit by: knowyourmeme.com)

I get faced with many challenges but I'm not afraid to go for it and challenge myself. Honestly when you think about most things, it's all in the mind.

-Shanell challenged me to a Spring Cleaning. Declutter everything in your house. Old papers, clothes, shoes, electronics, people, etc. How can you pray for new things when you simply have no room to receive them. When I got home today, I immediately took 2 hours of my time to clean. Its a 1 week challenge. Day 1 started off great.

-She also challenged me to a 21day Give Away Challenge. Give 1 thing away, each day for 21 days. I've never had a problem with this but its more discipline than I imagined. I was eating a bag of chips and half way through, I gave the rest to a homeless man. He was so happy, it felt good.

Rachelle challenged me to blog once a week. I've been focusing on NoBoizAllowed that I sort of -neglected you guys. Silly of me since you have been here from the beginning so I'm sticking to blogging atleast once a week.

So I was on tumblr and this came across my dashboard...

So I CHALLENGE YOU, DO THIS WORKOUT WITH ME. I WON'T EVEN PUT A TIME LIMIT ON IT. BUT I WANT YOU ALL TO CHALLENGE YOURSELF AND SEE HOW MUCH YOU CAN DO AND FOR HOW LONG. GO GO GO!

Oh you a BAD b-tch?

I see this too often so I have to remind us all. What are we trying to be "bad" for? Other people? Because I see too many people calling women bad based off of her having big breast and an even bigger ass. BUT nobody is asking to see credit scores and resume's. Nope, nobody wants to know what your IQ score is or even your medical history. I'd rather be called smart and business savvy than to be called bad. What makes a bad girl bad to you? Is it the car that she drives? Or maybe her weave is done right? Well lets really give these guys a reason to call us bad. Lets educate our minds and our banking accounts and on top of that have our bodies looking right that our looks will attract them but they can have someone to actually hold a conversation with.

I call my friends bad but that's because I can tell you everything they have going on for themselves is an advantage for their future. Whats your definition of bad?

What Are You Waiting For?

My Website No Boiz Allowed has been keeping me really busy. With new ideas, features, giveaways, promotions, etc. I really feel like in order for me to see my visions coming true, I had to get out of my own way! I argue that us as women need to stick together, this is exactly what this website is about. Helping you to express your story, giving you tips, trips, advice, recommendations, free giveaways, monthly eye candy, and much much more. We need to support one another but we must start with ourselves.

Who doesn't like free stuff? I know I do. So check my website out, like our facebook fan page and let's build eachother up instead of tearing eachother down. =)

Red Lips

There is a misconception that women of darker shades shouldn't wear colored lipstick but that would be one big boring and shallow world that we live in. I dress the way I feel and on this particular day, I felt like Red Lips! This was a gift from my bf last year and I misplaced it. Finally found it and couldn't wait to wear it.

This is L'Oreal Paris' 303 Royal Red shade. (click the link to check the website out) I love it because the color is exactly what you see is what you get. It's long lasting and light. The only thing I don't like is it can be easily smeared. Overall this shade and brand gets a 4 out of 5 stars. What are your favorite shades of lipstick?

Part 1. Practicing My Organization Skills...

I'm accustomed to a busy schedule, coming home and resting just to wake up and do it all over again. When I come home I always "wish" I could clean and have my things organized but we all know saying it is better than doing it. Well 2 weeks ago I got up and was just tired of looking at all of the mess/clutter. I gave away 7 trash bags full. 1 full of tennis shoes. 1 full of high heels. 1 full of jeans. 1 full of dresses. 1 full of tops. 1 full of purses, hair accessories, hats, and belts. 1 bag of prom and winterball dresses. 1 bag of old under garments (that I threw away). I felt the need to bless someone else with the things I was not wearing and it felt really good. Not only was my apartment decluttered, but it decluttered my mind.

I will show you the results when it is completely finished but it no longer looks like this! lol. smh.

and this is one of my dresser drawers that I organized. Finished look of the dresser drawer. I decided to put my accessories in the same drawer as my panties and bras because for one, it will remind me to actually put accessories on, for 2 it seperates the earrings from the necklaces from the bracelets, etc.

MORE PICS COMING SOON!

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THE MOMENT THAT I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR HAS FINALLY ARRIVED.
I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE YOU ALL IF YOU CHECK OUT MY PROJECT

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ITS STRICLY FOR THE LADIES BUT FELLAS, DO NOT BE AFRAID. TELL YOUR MOM, SISTERS, DAUGHTERS, ETC. EVERY WOMAN, ANY AGE IS WELCOME.

I AM A FIRM BELIEVER IN WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.
IN ORDER TO MAKE A CHANGE, ONE MUST START WITH THEMSELVES, FROM THERE ON OUT, ENCOURAGE ANOTHER.

THERE ARE STORIES THAT YOU MAY OR MAY NOT RELATE TO. THERE ARE TIPS, GIVEAWAYS, EYE CANDY AND PLENTY MORE TO SEE. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE ANYTHING, BE IT, YOUR STORY, ADVICE, YOUR TALENT, LADIES, PLEASE EMAIL ME. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO NOMINATE SOMEONE, ONCE AGAIN, PLEASE EMAIL ME. ALL COMMENTS, LOVE AND SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOME IN THE LOVENOTES SECTION. LET ME KNOW THAT YOU STOPPED BY!


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p.s. I am slowly marking things off of my To Do List (to the right) -wink-

I need a vacation

(Young Jeezy's voice)

For the past 2-3yrs my family had been asking me when I was coming back home to visit and deep down I've been trying but I was always working just to make ends meet (at the time) and leaving for a few days was me losing out on money. BUT this year I promised myself that I was going to do everything I want to do and no amount of money is going to stop me from seeing my family. We can be here today and gone tomorrow and it helps that I am on my feet and can take days off and not stress about anything!

Also one of my dreams was to see my 2 God children together at the same time in the same place and that's difficult because one is in Pennsylvania and the other is in California. So when going home to Cali to see my family and knowing my bestfriend and God Daughter in Pennsylvania would be there, I couldn't pass up this opportunity.

So me and my boyfriend took an 8 1/2hr drive from Las Vegas, NV to Seaside / Monterey, CA and it was worth EVERY minute! Now I feel refreshed. It's crazy because I never really appreciated where I come from until after I moved away and when I would tell ppl they would react like I was EVERYTHING! lol. I love me some WESTCOAST and I am happy to be from California but I also love living in Las Vegas. West is West.

Where are you from?

Enjoy a few pictures.

Monterey, California Beach

Shadow Swag

we were having fun seeing who can dig their feet the deepest using NO HANDS (Wale voice)

LUNCH!!!

The Fried Calamari was perfect!

My God Daughter Milania, My Bestfriend Jessica and her boyfriend/babies father Q.

Me with some of my family.

We were at Lovers Point

Me with my God Son Curtis III and my God Daughter Milania

Breakfast before we left to come back to Vegas.

CIAO

Organizing my life

I've noticed that when I make a daily or weekly To Do List, my days are more effective. I can relax and rejoice because I did what I set out to do. When I have no To Do List, I'm a slouch, lazy and just killing time. There is nothing wrong with killing time, only if you can care less that no matter what you do from that point on, that hour you wasted is an hour that you can never get back. If you pay a little attention to the right side of my page, I have a To Do List. I have been blessed and working hard to cross them off as I go. Working consistently at one thing at a time, I've gotten half way through my list, then add to it.

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Do you have a To Do List.?

If so, how has it helped you?

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I also have a bucket list. I tend to write everything down. "What to buy for me, for fun, for him, for house, etc." Everything is listed, titled, priced and marked off as I go. Do what works for you.

Winning vs. Losing

The term "winning" has become overused. Now more than ever thanks to Mr. Sheen. Some people tend to get Winning confused with Losing.

Winning is not matching your weave with your natural hair. That should be something you already do. Winning is not "babysitting" your children. If you have kids, raising them healthy and educating them is winning. Going to the club and buying a bottle is not winning. You just wasted your money on an over priced bottle just to show off for people that will talk about you with or without it. Winning is owning the club that the people are partying at. I can go on for hours, days, months even. I just want everyone to be aware that you are not winning if the next man is doing the same exact thing that you are doing and winning definitely is not comparing yourself to others that are capable of having exactly what you have. Lets win by giving, helping, succeeding, exceeding, and living without limits.

UPDATE!

Okay, I know it may seem as though I've created a twitter just to delete it and create another but I promise there is a reason for everything but for this problem, I have no resolution!
My very first twitter you may all remember @SincerelyDaja ... I had it for a year and ended up deleting it because I came to a point in my life where I just wanted a break from everything..

2 months later, I came back with @thnthrwasDAJA ... I had only had this twitter for 1.5 months. Well this past week for some reason my account was suspended and I really have no idea why. I emailed Twitter and they have yet to respond. As we all know I have some stuff in the works and I kind of need a twitter, along with other social media accounts for networking and advertising purposes...

So here is my third and final twitter because I feel like if something happens to this one..it's just NOT meant to be.

@DajaNBA <-- click there If I was following you before, believe me, I'll follow you again. Just please let me know its you!

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BESIDES THAT, today I had a mini photoshoot with 2 of my friends to promote my site/hats.. Some of the pictures came out REALLY good considering we used a digital camera! ALSO, I was able to preview the website so we can put the final touches on it and let me tell you, I almost cried!!!! Big shout out to @cmkdesigns

Tell a friend to tell a friend to "like" or "fan" the Facebook Page! No Boiz Allowed .. Once we reach 300 followers, I will be doing a giveaway!!!! =)

No Boiz Allowed

(front design of the official business cards)
Here is an insight of what I have been working on since summer of 2010. Now is the time that everything is about to unfold.

When you have a vision, a dream, a goal, a purpose in life, I encourage you to run with it. No matter what difficult path you may face and no matter the criticism that may come your way, always move forward.

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Eliminate all of the negative thoughts because those are only setbacks. The more time you dwell on the "what ifs" and the more time you feed the doubts is enough time wasted believing you can't do it and the negative thoughts will continue to grow. DO NOT FEED DOUBTS.

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I first came up with No Boiz Allowed in the summer of 2010. My mind and heart was set on this idea and no matter what I did for weeks, that would be all I thought about. I always felt that my purpose in life was anything to do with creativity and helping others. I knew in my heart the one thing women like you and me needed was a positive place to go when we feel a lone. A place to laugh, get advice and in return share your insight.

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My doubts for the idea crept up on me a few months after I mapped out my vision. Instead of me executing my idea, I did nothing else about it. An artist eventually began promoting her album titled "No Boys Allowed" which became her movement of women empowerment as well as mine. I got depressed and gave up but as time moved on, my vision was ALL I could think about.

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Then I woke up. To stop my dream and give up would defeat the purpose of the No Boiz Allowed brand. Us as women need to stick together, encourage one another, work harder, invest smarter. We cannot worry about what people may say or think because no matter what you do, good, bad or neutral, they're going to talk. What I will worry about is making my dreams a reality and you should too. I will not stop at good enough but will continue to strive to be the best me.

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TO SUBMIT TOPICS, PICTURES, INTERVIEWS, OR FOR SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES, PLEASE CONTACT ME @

daja.noboizallowed@gmail.com

(702)723-8424

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P.S. THE SITE WILL BE LAUNCHING WITHIN THE NEXT 2 WKS. IN THE MEANTIME PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO "LIKE" THE NOBOIZALLOWED FACEBOOK PAGE AND ONCE IT REACHES 300 "LIKES" FANS, WE WILL BE DOING A GIVEAWAY!!!!