I happen to like Wale. All of the singles that I have heard from him have really impressed me and his tweets have made me feel like chivalry is very much still alive. Now this is my personal opinion. If you don't agree, good for you. I'm only saying that because I've seen too many people disagree on this mans talent. And that's fine but he deserves to eat just like anybody that works hard to express themselves. Moving right along. This video made me say..THIS IS LIFE but since we are talking about LOVE and/or RELATIONSHIPS, let's see if I can break this down.
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EXPECTATIONS: He gets your number on day one. You are so excited and can't wait to talk to him all night.
REALITY: He doesn't call until about 3days later. Has to make you wait for his own ego.
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EXPECTATIONS: He calls to say Hi, I Miss You, You're Beautiful, I Love You, How was your day, etc
REALITY: You can't stop staring at your phone waiting for his phone call or even text message so you continuously call him only to hear he is busy or he doesn't answer.
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EXPECTATIONS: He is the last person you talk to before you go to sleep
REALITY: He is the only person NOT calling or texting you
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EXPECTATIONS: He should be out with you
REALITY: He is hanging out with his friends and other girls are there
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EXPECTATIONS: You are the only one in his life
REALITY: You are one of many in his life
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Ladies, let's focus more on REALITY and not expectations. We get hurt because we expect so much from people who haven't even proven themselves to be what we NEED. We are so blinded by the exterior that we will ignore our gut and instincts. He may be fine but if he isn't willing to spend the time with you that you desire or even respect you as a woman first then him being fine is the last thing you need to worry about. If you have to call him 5 times a day while texting all day in between before finally getting a response at the end of the night..then maybe just maybe, he isn't for you. Reality is, what we want can sometimes interfere with our best self. Stop making excuses for no good men. Stop giving yourself what you may consider good reasons to settle. I say a lot to follow your heart but let your mind lead. If you have to think twice about someones actions on more than one occassion and they haven't proved you otherwise to trust them..then maybe, just maybe your reality is REAL!
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I agree with all that you mentioned here. I remember when I was younger and up until now how I use to have major excepectations of certain people and come in reality they just were not for me, But I had come to realize that before anything else. So I think once people have a self check with themseleves they will realize hopefully sooner than later. That this individual is not into them and to simply move on for good.
So true!
maybe im a little slow , but i didnt understand the video until you just broke everything down ; thanks , aha - but i love wale , so talented !
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