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Decisions DECISIONS!

2011-06-18T10:39:00.000-07:00

So I haven't updated in a long time and I've been going back and forth in my head whether I should delete this blog or keep it for memory purposes. Lately I've just been focused on progression and trying to finish things that I've started so I directed my blogging life to my Womens Online Blogazine NOBOIZALLOWED .. I've been creating such a great platform that I don't want to stop. I also don't want to involve myself in 10 different things and only be able to give 10% of my energy to each project. I've turned down great opportunities but I no longer want to work for others and put my energy into their projects. I just really want to focus on my ideas and show the world what I can do. That doesn't mean I won't help others. In fact I LOVE giving and helping others but now I feel like it's time to pick and choose.

Soooo..I've been working hard with http://www.noboizallowed.com/ If you haven't already check that out. Like us on facebook (to the right) and follow it on @_NoBoizAllowed .. Cool topics, EyeCandy, Giveaways, etc.

I've enrolled back in school. =) This summer so far has been pretty fun but I'm beginning to realize some things (such as my dreams) are a little more important that my party life. Although I've said it time and time again..but when you're out partying for so long, things get old and faces don't change. I go out for celebrations and girls night out every chance I get though because I have to enjoy these moments given to me. But I'm working on my BUCKET LIST! I look at that and just get inspired. lol.

My friends, family, and boyfriend are all great and healthy. OH and I cut my hair..like really chopped it off. It's now a bob but I'm gonna go shorter in the back this week so it'll be an A-LINE. =)))

WHAT have YOU been up to? Tell me everything. I miss all of you. Seriously

Friendship Tips

2011-04-27T14:03:00.000-07:00

(photo courtesy of: nbc and google.com)

Good friends are often hard to find so when you find one, cherish him/her. In times of need, we sometimes don't know how to be there. Doing or saying the wrong thing can bring a bit of distance. I've always thought as friends we should have a holiday. Friendship Day. Once a year, plan a trip, sleepover, gift exchange etc. Just simply appreciate your friendship.

Essence Magazine gave us a few tips on What Not to Do.
-Don't try to cheer her up - there's nothing more irritating, because it makes you feel dismissed. Instead ask how she feels.

-Avoid platitudes like - God never gives us more than we can handle. They can sound preachy. It's better to speak from the heart.

-Don't say "I know just what you're going through" because you don't. Say instead, I can only imagine what you're going through.

-Avoid saying "call me if you need me" instead offer specific forms of help. "I'd like to bring dinner over tonight" No one likes to ask for help.

Let's Toast to LIFE!

2011-04-27T13:44:00.000-07:00

Hey! I missed you all. I have been everywhere. From working, to keeping NoBoizAllowed running, to going out with my friends. Trying to balance life and still come out on top. I have a new way of looking at things. I've realized that going out and seeing my friends bring more happiness to my life so I've managed to see them atleast once a week and it's turned out to be 3-4 times a week. lol. I'm not complaining.

We get so consumed with working and relationships that we forget who we once were and we forget that we can still have fun and do our own thing. I encourage you all to make time for your friends and loved ones. Don't spend too much time under your man because once he leaves, who do you have? You'll be trying to creep back to your friends. Don't spend so much time working because if you have nothing to show for it, it'll only cause more stress and overwhelm you.

Lets practice celebrating LIFE. We truly only have one to live.

For the past month or two, I've been celebrating LIFE and toasting to LIFE. It doesn't make any sense not to. Join me!

we seen Chrisette Michele in Concert and she is AMAZING!!!!!

ARE YOU DOWN!?

2011-04-11T01:24:00.000-07:00

(photo credit by: knowyourmeme.com)

I get faced with many challenges but I'm not afraid to go for it and challenge myself. Honestly when you think about most things, it's all in the mind.

-Shanell challenged me to a Spring Cleaning. Declutter everything in your house. Old papers, clothes, shoes, electronics, people, etc. How can you pray for new things when you simply have no room to receive them. When I got home today, I immediately took 2 hours of my time to clean. Its a 1 week challenge. Day 1 started off great.

-She also challenged me to a 21day Give Away Challenge. Give 1 thing away, each day for 21 days. I've never had a problem with this but its more discipline than I imagined. I was eating a bag of chips and half way through, I gave the rest to a homeless man. He was so happy, it felt good.

Rachelle challenged me to blog once a week. I've been focusing on NoBoizAllowed that I sort of -neglected you guys. Silly of me since you have been here from the beginning so I'm sticking to blogging atleast once a week.

So I was on tumblr and this came across my dashboard...

So I CHALLENGE YOU, DO THIS WORKOUT WITH ME. I WON'T EVEN PUT A TIME LIMIT ON IT. BUT I WANT YOU ALL TO CHALLENGE YOURSELF AND SEE HOW MUCH YOU CAN DO AND FOR HOW LONG. GO GO GO!

Oh you a BAD b-tch?

2011-04-10T00:16:00.000-07:00

I see this too often so I have to remind us all. What are we trying to be "bad" for? Other people? Because I see too many people calling women bad based off of her having big breast and an even bigger ass. BUT nobody is asking to see credit scores and resume's. Nope, nobody wants to know what your IQ score is or even your medical history. I'd rather be called smart and business savvy than to be called bad. What makes a bad girl bad to you? Is it the car that she drives? Or maybe her weave is done right? Well lets really give these guys a reason to call us bad. Lets educate our minds and our banking accounts and on top of that have our bodies looking right that our looks will attract them but they can have someone to actually hold a conversation with.

I call my friends bad but that's because I can tell you everything they have going on for themselves is an advantage for their future. Whats your definition of bad?

What Are You Waiting For?

2011-03-31T11:58:00.000-07:00

My Website No Boiz Allowed has been keeping me really busy. With new ideas, features, giveaways, promotions, etc. I really feel like in order for me to see my visions coming true, I had to get out of my own way! I argue that us as women need to stick together, this is exactly what this website is about. Helping you to express your story, giving you tips, trips, advice, recommendations, free giveaways, monthly eye candy, and much much more. We need to support one another but we must start with ourselves.

Who doesn't like free stuff? I know I do. So check my website out, like our facebook fan page and let's build eachother up instead of tearing eachother down. =)

Red Lips

2011-03-31T11:45:00.000-07:00

There is a misconception that women of darker shades shouldn't wear colored lipstick but that would be one big boring and shallow world that we live in. I dress the way I feel and on this particular day, I felt like Red Lips! This was a gift from my bf last year and I misplaced it. Finally found it and couldn't wait to wear it.

This is L'Oreal Paris' 303 Royal Red shade. (click the link to check the website out) I love it because the color is exactly what you see is what you get. It's long lasting and light. The only thing I don't like is it can be easily smeared. Overall this shade and brand gets a 4 out of 5 stars. What are your favorite shades of lipstick?

Part 1. Practicing My Organization Skills...

2011-03-31T11:36:00.000-07:00

I'm accustomed to a busy schedule, coming home and resting just to wake up and do it all over again. When I come home I always "wish" I could clean and have my things organized but we all know saying it is better than doing it. Well 2 weeks ago I got up and was just tired of looking at all of the mess/clutter. I gave away 7 trash bags full. 1 full of tennis shoes. 1 full of high heels. 1 full of jeans. 1 full of dresses. 1 full of tops. 1 full of purses, hair accessories, hats, and belts. 1 bag of prom and winterball dresses. 1 bag of old under garments (that I threw away). I felt the need to bless someone else with the things I was not wearing and it felt really good. Not only was my apartment decluttered, but it decluttered my mind.

I will show you the results when it is completely finished but it no longer looks like this! lol. smh.

and this is one of my dresser drawers that I organized. Finished look of the dresser drawer. I decided to put my accessories in the same drawer as my panties and bras because for one, it will remind me to actually put accessories on, for 2 it seperates the earrings from the necklaces from the bracelets, etc.

MORE PICS COMING SOON!

No Boiz Allowed (dot) com

2011-03-20T21:31:00.000-07:00

THE MOMENT THAT I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR HAS FINALLY ARRIVED.
I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE YOU ALL IF YOU CHECK OUT MY PROJECT

NOBOIZALLOWED.COM

ITS STRICLY FOR THE LADIES BUT FELLAS, DO NOT BE AFRAID. TELL YOUR MOM, SISTERS, DAUGHTERS, ETC. EVERY WOMAN, ANY AGE IS WELCOME.

I AM A FIRM BELIEVER IN WOMEN EMPOWERMENT.
IN ORDER TO MAKE A CHANGE, ONE MUST START WITH THEMSELVES, FROM THERE ON OUT, ENCOURAGE ANOTHER.

THERE ARE STORIES THAT YOU MAY OR MAY NOT RELATE TO. THERE ARE TIPS, GIVEAWAYS, EYE CANDY AND PLENTY MORE TO SEE. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE ANYTHING, BE IT, YOUR STORY, ADVICE, YOUR TALENT, LADIES, PLEASE EMAIL ME. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO NOMINATE SOMEONE, ONCE AGAIN, PLEASE EMAIL ME. ALL COMMENTS, LOVE AND SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOME IN THE LOVENOTES SECTION. LET ME KNOW THAT YOU STOPPED BY!

@DAJA.NOBOIZALLOWED.COM

p.s. I am slowly marking things off of my To Do List (to the right) -wink-

I need a vacation

2011-03-15T22:16:00.001-07:00

(Young Jeezy's voice)

For the past 2-3yrs my family had been asking me when I was coming back home to visit and deep down I've been trying but I was always working just to make ends meet (at the time) and leaving for a few days was me losing out on money. BUT this year I promised myself that I was going to do everything I want to do and no amount of money is going to stop me from seeing my family. We can be here today and gone tomorrow and it helps that I am on my feet and can take days off and not stress about anything!

Also one of my dreams was to see my 2 God children together at the same time in the same place and that's difficult because one is in Pennsylvania and the other is in California. So when going home to Cali to see my family and knowing my bestfriend and God Daughter in Pennsylvania would be there, I couldn't pass up this opportunity.

So me and my boyfriend took an 8 1/2hr drive from Las Vegas, NV to Seaside / Monterey, CA and it was worth EVERY minute! Now I feel refreshed. It's crazy because I never really appreciated where I come from until after I moved away and when I would tell ppl they would react like I was EVERYTHING! lol. I love me some WESTCOAST and I am happy to be from California but I also love living in Las Vegas. West is West.

Where are you from?

Enjoy a few pictures.

Monterey, California Beach

Shadow Swag

we were having fun seeing who can dig their feet the deepest using NO HANDS (Wale voice)

LUNCH!!!

The Fried Calamari was perfect!

My God Daughter Milania, My Bestfriend Jessica and her boyfriend/babies father Q.

Me with some of my family.

We were at Lovers Point

Me with my God Son Curtis III and my God Daughter Milania

Breakfast before we left to come back to Vegas.

CIAO

Organizing my life

2011-03-12T12:32:00.000-08:00

I've noticed that when I make a daily or weekly To Do List, my days are more effective. I can relax and rejoice because I did what I set out to do. When I have no To Do List, I'm a slouch, lazy and just killing time. There is nothing wrong with killing time, only if you can care less that no matter what you do from that point on, that hour you wasted is an hour that you can never get back. If you pay a little attention to the right side of my page, I have a To Do List. I have been blessed and working hard to cross them off as I go. Working consistently at one thing at a time, I've gotten half way through my list, then add to it.

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Do you have a To Do List.?

If so, how has it helped you?

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I also have a bucket list. I tend to write everything down. "What to buy for me, for fun, for him, for house, etc." Everything is listed, titled, priced and marked off as I go. Do what works for you.

Winning vs. Losing

2011-03-12T12:20:00.001-08:00

The term "winning" has become overused. Now more than ever thanks to Mr. Sheen. Some people tend to get Winning confused with Losing.

Winning is not matching your weave with your natural hair. That should be something you already do. Winning is not "babysitting" your children. If you have kids, raising them healthy and educating them is winning. Going to the club and buying a bottle is not winning. You just wasted your money on an over priced bottle just to show off for people that will talk about you with or without it. Winning is owning the club that the people are partying at. I can go on for hours, days, months even. I just want everyone to be aware that you are not winning if the next man is doing the same exact thing that you are doing and winning definitely is not comparing yourself to others that are capable of having exactly what you have. Lets win by giving, helping, succeeding, exceeding, and living without limits.

UPDATE!

2011-03-04T23:40:00.001-08:00

Okay, I know it may seem as though I've created a twitter just to delete it and create another but I promise there is a reason for everything but for this problem, I have no resolution!
My very first twitter you may all remember @SincerelyDaja ... I had it for a year and ended up deleting it because I came to a point in my life where I just wanted a break from everything..

2 months later, I came back with @thnthrwasDAJA ... I had only had this twitter for 1.5 months. Well this past week for some reason my account was suspended and I really have no idea why. I emailed Twitter and they have yet to respond. As we all know I have some stuff in the works and I kind of need a twitter, along with other social media accounts for networking and advertising purposes...

So here is my third and final twitter because I feel like if something happens to this one..it's just NOT meant to be.

@DajaNBA <-- click there If I was following you before, believe me, I'll follow you again. Just please let me know its you!

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BESIDES THAT, today I had a mini photoshoot with 2 of my friends to promote my site/hats.. Some of the pictures came out REALLY good considering we used a digital camera! ALSO, I was able to preview the website so we can put the final touches on it and let me tell you, I almost cried!!!! Big shout out to @cmkdesigns

Tell a friend to tell a friend to "like" or "fan" the Facebook Page! No Boiz Allowed .. Once we reach 300 followers, I will be doing a giveaway!!!! =)

No Boiz Allowed

2011-03-03T01:17:00.001-08:00

(front design of the official business cards)
Here is an insight of what I have been working on since summer of 2010. Now is the time that everything is about to unfold.

When you have a vision, a dream, a goal, a purpose in life, I encourage you to run with it. No matter what difficult path you may face and no matter the criticism that may come your way, always move forward.

Eliminate all of the negative thoughts because those are only setbacks. The more time you dwell on the "what ifs" and the more time you feed the doubts is enough time wasted believing you can't do it and the negative thoughts will continue to grow. DO NOT FEED DOUBTS.

I first came up with No Boiz Allowed in the summer of 2010. My mind and heart was set on this idea and no matter what I did for weeks, that would be all I thought about. I always felt that my purpose in life was anything to do with creativity and helping others. I knew in my heart the one thing women like you and me needed was a positive place to go when we feel a lone. A place to laugh, get advice and in return share your insight.

My doubts for the idea crept up on me a few months after I mapped out my vision. Instead of me executing my idea, I did nothing else about it. An artist eventually began promoting her album titled "No Boys Allowed" which became her movement of women empowerment as well as mine. I got depressed and gave up but as time moved on, my vision was ALL I could think about.

Then I woke up. To stop my dream and give up would defeat the purpose of the No Boiz Allowed brand. Us as women need to stick together, encourage one another, work harder, invest smarter. We cannot worry about what people may say or think because no matter what you do, good, bad or neutral, they're going to talk. What I will worry about is making my dreams a reality and you should too. I will not stop at good enough but will continue to strive to be the best me.

TO SUBMIT TOPICS, PICTURES, INTERVIEWS, OR FOR SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES, PLEASE CONTACT ME @

daja.noboizallowed@gmail.com

(702)723-8424

P.S. THE SITE WILL BE LAUNCHING WITHIN THE NEXT 2 WKS. IN THE MEANTIME PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO "LIKE" THE NOBOIZALLOWED FACEBOOK PAGE AND ONCE IT REACHES 300 "LIKES" FANS, WE WILL BE DOING A GIVEAWAY!!!!

NBA AllStar 2011

2011-02-24T12:26:00.000-08:00

I apologize for my absence. I was on a mini vacation with my ladies in L.A. for AllStar wknd. Shout out to the WEST! Those who know me, know #irepthatwest tough.
Anyway..here's a nice little recap.

On the road on our way to L.A. there was no traffic and the scenery was beautiful.

We arrived to grey skies but our Hotel stay at the Kyoto Grand Hotel was BEAUTIFUL and right in the heart of downtown L.A.

Our room..

Downtown at the Staples Center

At Gilbere Forte's Listening Party. Deonna, Jazzi from Pistol Etiquette and I.

Gilbere Forte Himself.

On our way to paint the town red, and brown and white lol

Roscoe's Chicken and Waffles

If you are ever in L.A. and haven't been there...PLEASE do so.

Us ladies about to get the night started

Pinkberry is the besttttt

Lunch at a Korean place..soooo good!
My girls shopping on East 2nd Street.

Time to say goodbye L.A.
Vegas, here we come!

Just a mini recap. It was much more detailed and many more pictures but that was the just of it. Lots of memories made with great people. Hope you enjoyed =)

PinkGrasshopper x SincerelyDaja x American Apparel

2011-02-24T12:07:00.000-08:00

Awhile back PinkGrasshopper had an American Apparel Giveaway to their viewers/fans of the website >> mypinkgrasshopper annnd I won!!! Check it out here
I was super excited because I absolutely love their site and I never really win anything. Here I am in the shirt that I chose.

That just goes to show that you never know what supporting someone else's vision and work can get you. I mean, don't do things with intentions of receiving but you have to truly support others to gain support. Show your favorite bloggers love. =)

Valentines Day is what you make it

2011-02-12T09:54:00.000-08:00

When it comes to Holidays, I try to focus less on the gifts and more on ways to create memories. We can spend a lot of money and at the end of the day have nothing to show for it and no use for it. However a memory, no matter how inexpensive, will never go away.

I created this outfit on Polyvore. I can see myself wearing this for the Love Holiday. With a nude lip, pink nail polish and very loose curls.

People tend to complain about Valentines Day because they find themselves spending it alone. I went on a very long stretch for years with no Valentine. I never sat around moping all sad and depressed and hating LOVE. I spent that time alone and treated myself, whether it was dinner, a movie or a gift. Another year, my friends and I decided to get together and have an all girls night because we were all single but comfortable enough to enjoy the time together.

Don't blame LOVE for your current situation. Don't blame LOVE because nobody asked you to be their Valentine. Be your own Valentine and embrace doing it.

WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS FOR VALENTINES DAY THIS YEAR?

According to my Valentines Poll the Majority of you are spending this holiday alone.

Here are a few ideas to get you through this day with a little ME time.

Treat yourself to a spa day: Massage, Facial, Mani + Pedi, Schedule a Hair Appointment
Buy yourself flowers : ($5 - $10 at Walmart. If you prefer a wider selection to choose from try your local florist and search online for local coupons to save yourself a little money)
Order your favorite take out ($10-$20)
Pick up a bottle of Wine, your choice ($15-$50)
Take a nice warm bubble bath with nicely scented candles
Put on your favorite Perfume or Body Spray
Get Dressed in something comfortable to relax
Rent 2 or 3 funny movies from RedBox ($1 per movie)

If you have other single friends, make this a girls sleep over and do all things mentioned above but also exchange one gift. Make a bowl with names and pick a name and give that one friend the gift you bought.

For some this is an emotional holiday but Valentines Day is what you make it.

Got Ink?

2011-02-08T23:42:00.000-08:00

One of my co-workers have amazing tattoos. One being a pair of shears because she is a Cosmetologist and cutting hair is apart of her profession. Well the middle screw that holds the shears together, she got pierced. DOPE!

Its getting old seeing a bunch of sleeves and full body suited tattoos that have absolutely no meaning. I see alot of the same tattoos on people. If your tattoo has no meaning to it...then you just might've wasted your money.

I have 2 Tattoos. One is right below my neck. Reading "Blessed"

and that is Self Explanatory.

What tattoos do you have and what do they mean to you?

Expectations Vs. Reality

2011-02-08T22:48:00.000-08:00

I happen to like Wale. All of the singles that I have heard from him have really impressed me and his tweets have made me feel like chivalry is very much still alive. Now this is my personal opinion. If you don't agree, good for you. I'm only saying that because I've seen too many people disagree on this mans talent. And that's fine but he deserves to eat just like anybody that works hard to express themselves. Moving right along. This video made me say..THIS IS LIFE but since we are talking about LOVE and/or RELATIONSHIPS, let's see if I can break this down.

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EXPECTATIONS: He gets your number on day one. You are so excited and can't wait to talk to him all night.

REALITY: He doesn't call until about 3days later. Has to make you wait for his own ego.

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EXPECTATIONS: He calls to say Hi, I Miss You, You're Beautiful, I Love You, How was your day, etc

REALITY: You can't stop staring at your phone waiting for his phone call or even text message so you continuously call him only to hear he is busy or he doesn't answer.

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EXPECTATIONS: He is the last person you talk to before you go to sleep

REALITY: He is the only person NOT calling or texting you

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EXPECTATIONS: He should be out with you

REALITY: He is hanging out with his friends and other girls are there

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EXPECTATIONS: You are the only one in his life

REALITY: You are one of many in his life
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Ladies, let's focus more on REALITY and not expectations. We get hurt because we expect so much from people who haven't even proven themselves to be what we NEED. We are so blinded by the exterior that we will ignore our gut and instincts. He may be fine but if he isn't willing to spend the time with you that you desire or even respect you as a woman first then him being fine is the last thing you need to worry about. If you have to call him 5 times a day while texting all day in between before finally getting a response at the end of the night..then maybe just maybe, he isn't for you. Reality is, what we want can sometimes interfere with our best self. Stop making excuses for no good men. Stop giving yourself what you may consider good reasons to settle. I say a lot to follow your heart but let your mind lead. If you have to think twice about someones actions on more than one occassion and they haven't proved you otherwise to trust them..then maybe, just maybe your reality is REAL!

Woah, Throwback Me!

2011-02-02T00:44:00.000-08:00

Today my mom posted a few old pics of me on facebook. I text her "you better not embarrass me" but I ended up liking and remembering all of the pictures.. Just thought I would share with you.

That's me sitting on the floor. You see how long my hair was? Oh how I miss thee.

I can only imagine how my daughter will look if I ever have one.

Our History x Our Future

2011-02-02T00:30:00.000-08:00

You won't know where you are going if you don't know where you have been. Let's take this time to LEARN about our past. OUR history, be it our own family, our heritage, our leaders, etc. Learning is the one thing we do daily. We come into contact with people on a daily and no matter how old or young, we can always learn something from them. Let's not complain how short Black History Month is. Let's embrace that we have a month to celebrate. Let's also take this beyond one month. Let's take advantage that we are blessed to have role models that we willing to give up their lives for us to live our dreams. Let us be the best US that we can be. Happy Black History Month!

My New Obsession = Polyvore

2011-01-26T18:13:00.000-08:00

I use to see ppl create cute little outfits on a site named Polyvore. I had a little down time today so I decided to give it a try. Its very time consuming but fun at the same time. I have decided to come up with a little theme. I named each completed outfit after a title of a Beyonce or Destiny's Child song.

From top to bottom:

Flaws and all
Summertime
Diva
Ego

keep checking back because there will be more to come!

where can you see yourself wearing each outfit? I'm curious to know.

If you have a Polyvore, let me know and I'll be happy to check it out. =)

add me on Polyvore

Cajun Shrimp x Shattered = OPI and Katy Perry

2011-01-23T23:42:00.000-08:00

I absolutely LOVE OPI nail lacquir! It could be because we sell it at my job and I use it whenever I feel the need..or maybe because its worth the $8.50 a bottle.hmm whatever it is, keeps me coming back. I decided to try the new Shattered from Katy Perry by OPI. I usually use a bright color no matter the season so I chose Cajun Shrimp. I think I chose this one because Shrimp sounded good at the time..lol the ending result is something I fell in love with.

P.S. If you decide to purchase Shattered, make sure you only put on one coat.

No matter how big or small the goal...stick to it!

2011-01-23T22:36:00.000-08:00

I am soooooo happy and proud of MYSELF!

I've owned this credit card for 2 years. Initially it was just to build for credit...then emergencies popped up..then I wanted to splurging on clothes and other unecessary things.

If you all know the cycle of credit cards then you know it wasn't that easy keeping up with. I did pay, every month on time BUT it was just the thought of completely paying it off without ever having to worry about another credit card bill again that was eating me up. Nevertheless it was a goal and to me it seemed impossible but it was on my vision board and that was all I ever talked about. You see its even on my TO DO LIST (to the bottom right of my site).

Everyday I would go through my journal and see "Pay off Credit Card in Jan. 2011". Finally, I came up with enough saved and enough guts to spend it all on my credit but that was the purpose of that savings pot. I PAID IT COMPLETELY OFF! Then I cut it off. After I cut it off I was told I should've kept it open so I can build my credit better but I just wanted to be completely done with it for good!

ANY GOAL IS NEVER IMPOSSIBLE. IF YOU CAN IMAGINE IT, YOU CAN ACHIEVE IT! BELIEVE IT. I DID IT!

WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR GOALS?!

Crucial characteristics of lasting LOVE according to Dee Anne Merriman

2011-01-23T22:24:00.000-08:00

1. Physical appearance
While physical appearance and attraction draw two people together at first, these aspects will affect the rest of their lives. If working out and staying fit is important to you, will it bum you out if your mate doesn’t share your quest for rock-hard abs?

2. Emotional maturity
Is this person emotionally mature and centered or still lugging around some trunk-sized baggage? How does your sweetheart relate to family and friends? Is he or she emotionally supportive or have control issues? Is your mate aware of his or her own issues and interested in addressing them?

3. Lifestyle choices
This includes career and social lives, common interests, leisure time activities and energy levels. Would she rather join the bowling league or the metropolitan symphony? Does he have lots of energy for activities with friends while she’d rather rest and chill out at home?

4. Financial compatibility
This is a hot bed for most couples. It includes income levels, savings goals and views on handling money. How do you each want to spend, save and invest? Is one person a spender while the other saves? Is one person financially responsible while the other plays catch-up with child support and bills?

5. Value structure
This area is often overlooked but has a tremendous impact on your life. It includes the big values: honesty, integrity, loyalty, views on family and children, religion and spirituality, life goals and the treatment and care for others. Does your mate follow through on promises made? Would you say this person is trustworthy? Will you always be there for each other in a pinch?

6. Marriage and intimacy
Everyone does not share the same idea of marriage. The big questions to address are: What do you and your mate expect from marriage? Is he or she looking for a soul mate? Do you both want close intimacy beyond the physical aspect, including with your friendships and in private communications with each other?

7. Intelligence
Having similar education levels increases your chances of sharing matching school and social experiences, intellectual interests and career goals. What topics do you and your honey like to talk about? Conversation limited to sports or shopping may get boring to someone who likes to ponder philosophy and bluster about business.

Focus!

2011-01-23T22:11:00.000-08:00

This speaks to me. Sometimes I get off track. Things get in the way of my dreams but my dreams stay the same. Life happens. Things will always distract us..but balance is what keeps us focused.

FRIENDLY REMINDER!

2011-01-23T22:03:00.000-08:00

It's too early for this bullshhh..

2011-01-18T09:20:00.000-08:00

This just happened a few hours ago. Figured I would share with you all.
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"Just a bad day, my lips are swollen as fuck, I'm not enrolled in class, just awful, friggin awful, *knocks object down*"

ME: Its only 650am westcoast time. 950am eastcoast time and u already summed your day up by one mistake? Boy you better get up and do something about it. Make every minute count.

HIM: Let me sulk got dammit! Lol

ME: Lmao whatever you say.

HIM: You only see the summary, not the whole synopsis.

ME: Yes but I know how life works. Ppl make excuses and call it "reality" if you sit around and let the negative defeat you..u aint living. All this shit happened to you so what are you gonna do? Sit around and be mad? It won't change nothin. Just more time wasted. I don't know your whole situation but you gotta do something about it. Its too early in the day to already claim a bad day.

HIM: I'm sorry I didn't know, you had these experiences in life, you sound 55, its just a bad day, we all go through it and get past it.

ME: Nope. Just gotta learn early that its not always what happens to you but its more so on how you react to it. Didn't mean to preach. I don't even know you but felt the need to say something. Have a good day.

HIM: I guess that was your good deed to start off your glorious day?

ME: If that's how you see it. I won't knock ya..shawty.

HIM: Calling a spade a spde.
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Moral of this conversation: WE have control over OUR lives..so start with trying to control your DAY! Don't let one bad thing, ruin it.. If it is a terrible situation such as death or something to that extreme...that's one thing but something that we CAN control will run you to the ground if you let it!

FRIENDS

2011-01-17T01:55:00.001-08:00

Life long friends should have a holiday.

But since there isn't one, if you have a friend that crosses your mind, don't hesitate to call or send them a handwritten letter, flowers, or a 'just because' gift, which is all much more memorable than a text. We stepped into the world of technology forgetting how to communicate.

Just one of those late nights...

2011-01-17T01:20:00.000-08:00

So I'm up late doing some graphics..and felt like talking but everyone is sleep. Soooo I'll blog it out and you can talk back. Just random thoughts going through my head.

-Have you ever been with someone for quite sometime and you feel like the ups and downs are finally over. All of a sudden you fall in love with that same person all over again? It's wonderful. Years later the butterflies are still in your stomach and you can't stop smiling when they walk through the door. I LOVE LOVE!

-you ever feel so hurt for others because they blame LOVE for their problems and past? Love didn't hurt you. It was the person you chose to share it with and whether you believe it or not, just because that person is a good person and you are a good person, doesn't mean you both are perfect for eachother! There would be no such thing as hurt, pain, a break-up etc, if every person you date is perfect. If that was the case, we would see more marriages and little to no divorces.

-you ever notice a group of friends and they all do the same thing. lets say rap. well there's 5guys and they all rap. yet, none wants to admit that there is one leader because instead of trying to build a team and put one man on at a time, they all want to lead. with that comes greed, hate, jealousy, envy.._ _ _ _ _ (enter word here) all the things you can think of that can possibly break up a friendship. When building a team, someone has to be the leader.. the crew has to be willing to work hard to bring love to that person but not just for the benefit of the leader but for the growth of the team. so once the leader gets put on...he will of course, put his team on. ex: 50cent and G-Unit. Now 50cent is a brand and his team is EATING! whether you see them or not. (you might not like 50 but you gotta respect him from a business point of view)

-How do you feel about Wiz Khalifa and Amber Rose as a couple? hmmm...

idk..talk to me

Happy Birthday!!!

2011-01-15T14:06:00.000-08:00

Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can't ride you unless your back is bent. -MLK Jr.

Happy Birthday:
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
My cousin Ralph
My brother Alex
and my friends daughter Niah
I love and appreciate you all!

let's promise eachother!

2011-01-14T13:29:00.000-08:00

Police vs. The World

2011-01-14T12:19:00.001-08:00

So what you're telling me is I have to FEAR the police? I thought their purpose was to protect and serve. There are way too many stories of police brutality. They are killing our people and getting away with it. From Oscar Grant, to Sean Bell to Reggie Doucet and more. It is SAD! It is unfair. Do we turn and look the other way? NO! Why is it okay for the police to kill an unarmed man? Are these police feeling threatened for their life when they clearly outnumber us? Police are never solo. There are always 2 or more. If you cannot detain someone, you are carrying a tazer and/or a billy club but the first choice of weapon you choose is Gun? You are kidding me. Please pray for the Doucet family. Didn't think it would hit this close to home with someone I know. R.I.P Reggie Doucet.

Zodiac Signs

2011-01-14T12:13:00.000-08:00

Have you ever met someone and asked, “What’s your sign?” Well, their response may now be, “I don’t know.” According to a report from the Minnesota Planetarium Society, there has been a change in the alignment of the earth due to the gravitational pull from the moon. It has created a one month advance in the star’s therefore a change in your astrological sign could have occurred. Has your sign changed?

Capricorn: Jan. 20 – Feb. 16
Aquarius: Feb. 16 – March 11
Pisces: March 11- April 18
Aries: April 18 – May 13
Taurus: May 13 – June 21
Gemini: June 21 – July 20
Cancer: July 20 – Aug. 10
Leo: Aug. 10 – Sept. 16
Virgo: Sept. 16 – Oct. 30
Libra: Oct. 30 – Nov. 23
Scorpio: Nov. 23 – Nov. 29
Ophiuchus: Nov. 29 – Dec. 17
Sagittarius: Dec. 17 – Jan. 20

The debate of whether or not these changes affect everyone has created a frenzy. Before you start thinking you’ve lost your identity, this may not apply to you at all. The zodiac sign Ophiuchus has only been visible on the horizon since 2009 and only affects people born after 2009.

source | Necole Bitchie.com

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I was tripping out about this at first but if it only applies to ppl born after 2009, we are good! I would've hated to be a Virgo because I love the Libra in me. lol Whats your sign?

Tweet that!

2011-01-11T00:12:00.000-08:00

@thnthrwasDAJA

because "and then there was Daja" just wouldn't fit..

so follow me if you were before and drop your twitter names in my comments section!

I'm doing things a little bit different this time around. I have projects in the works so I must build my networks, social sites etc.

It's time for WOMEN EMPOWERMENT! and I will stop at nothing until each one of you are LOVING YOURSELVES. Lets go. POSITIVITY all the way.

or maybe I am just addicted much? maybe.lol jk

U.G.L.Y = U Gotta Love Yourself

2011-01-05T20:10:00.000-08:00

If I had a little sister, I would sit her down and MAKE her watch this! We all deal with insecurities at one point in our life. But now I know that U.G.L.Y means U Gotta Love Yourself! I LOVE THIS!

Don’t let the good girl gone bad turn into the bad girl they all had!

2011-01-05T20:03:00.001-08:00

Everywhere I look, every chick is trying to be the baddest, the thickest, have the best swag, weave, etc. If your cleavage isn’t spilling out of your shirt, you aren’t sexy enough. If you don’t receive a compliment, you’re left feeling insecure. But who’s fault is it? Men, for chasing these women? Women for talking shit about another woman if she isn’t put together like her? Or society for throwing sex out there like this is the way we are SUPPOSED to be?

Me and my bf were talking yesterday and I asked him ”why is it, when men see an attractive woman in barely anything, y’all go crazy but when it comes to the lady in your life, you want her covered up and classy?” His response, “because we don’t wife them hoes. If they are willing to show us everything without us working for it then we won’t want to keep her. That’s not the girl we really want”

It’s cool to be satisfying to the eye…but too much of anything isn’t good. Don’t put ALL of your goodies out there at once.

I feel sexiest when the clothes I wear are fashionable, yet very comfortable. I always ask my boyfriend "does this look good" he'll say yes, but no matter his answer, if I don't feel it..I won't wear it. and if I can't make myself happy and comfortable with what I do and wear, how can I expect someone else to be comfortable around me. Be comfortable in the skin you are in. Be comfortable being you. Don't let the videos, media, celebrities, determine your sexy for you. Don't let the men chasing after naked women bother you because remember that's not necessarily who wins in the end. BE YOU!

Happy 2011

2011-01-01T12:27:00.000-08:00

So how did everyone bring in the new year? (yes this is a real question, I'm very curious)

Me, my bf, his cousin and his cousins friend sat in my house untili 12 o'clock hit.. brought in the New Year with a shot (not me of course) and went over to my friends house to her house party. It was fun. Danced, talked, took lots of pictures. Then we left and went to Denny's because that was the only thing opened at 4am. Neway..

any of you have any New Years Resolutions or advice? I'd like to hear it. (talk to me, I talk back)

Update

2010-12-28T14:15:00.000-08:00

Hiii! I wonder if anybody missed me? lol. Well let me
explain. My bf took a vacation to see his family for
Christmas. So for 12 days I RELAXED and made it a point to find out what ME time really meant. I can't tell you how it feels to sit home alone, listen to your thoughts, listen to your body, and to just enjoy yourself. That was the one time I was able to understand the element of one on one time with myself. It gave me room to plan, to clean, to get rid of clutter and to actually communicate with friends and family. I deleted my twitter and downgraded my phone.. Right now I'm using an old flip phone so I cannot access the internet nor does it have a camera. If ever I wanted to use the internet, I would have to wait until I got home..which by then, I could careless because I wanted to cook, eat, and relax.

Sometimes we forget that we have to make ourselves happy first. We have to spend time alone. Sometimes we also feel like when we do have an extra hour to spare, that we must keep ourselves busy, turn on the t.v., call a friend, get on the internet. etc. But if you use any of that extra time of your day for yourself to just relax or declutter your mind, you may find a little peace.

-If we are always focused on external stimulation, or even on our relationships, we miss opportunities for inner growth and renewal.

-We're more creative alone.

-In solitude, we see more clearly.

-Alone—in moments of prayer or meditation, or simply in stillness—we breathe more deeply, see more fully, hear more keenly.

-"We seem to have a complex about busyness in our culture. Most of us do have time in our days that we could devote to simple relaxation, but we convince ourselves that we don't." It seems there is always something that needs doing, always someone who needs our attention. "Unfortunately, we don't get a lot of support in this culture for doing nothing. If we aren't accomplishing something, we feel that we're wasting time." -Thomas Moore

-"We are constantly pulled outside ourselves—by other people, by the media, by the demands of daily life. Nothing in our culture or in our education teaches us how to go inward, how to steady the mind and calm our attention. As a consequence, we tend to devote very little time to other people without having time for ourselves

So how was everyone's Christmas?
Whats Everyone's plans for the New Years?
(and yes these are real questions. Talk to me, I talk back)

How Deep Is Your Faith?

2010-12-28T13:45:00.000-08:00

From The Secret Daily Teachings
Every religion on the planet has told us to have FAITH. Faith is when you cannot see how, but you absolutely know that the moment you have the dream it is given to you, and all you have to do is relax and allow the Universe to magnetize you to your dream and your dream to you.

May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne
The Secret and The Power... bringing joy to billions

The 5 Love Languages

2010-12-28T12:56:00.000-08:00

On Christmas Eve I spent time with my 2 great friends, Deonna and Cashmere. We had really good conversations and in the midst of talking about Love and Relationships, Cashmere brought up The 5 Love Languages. Being curious, I did some research and came up on the website and it made me really sit down and think. My love language is described by the majority of them so now I want the book. If you want to read along let me know.

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Exactly how I feel at times

2010-12-18T23:26:00.000-08:00

P.S.

2010-12-08T16:36:00.000-08:00

I've been thinking about going back to school.

Me and my good friend Deonna had a conversation the other night and she was telling me how she goes to school with people whom are homeless. They will bathe in school just to be there everyday learning. While we go on about our lives complaining and taking the simple things for granted this person sleeps in their car but has the passion to go to school and get an education.

Who am I think I am above that. To think I have no reason to learn more than I already know. We never are "grown" because we always have room to grow. But I can act ignorant sometimes thinking I know everything when in fact I know nothing at all.

I need to be educated and certified in the things that I am doing. I know we all say that Donald Trump doesnt have a college degree and he's a millionaire but that's rare. Everybody cannot be Donald Trump or Jay Z. You have to be you. I am not saying that college is the only way but I have done so many things in life without finishing anything and I would like to make more use of my time. Even if it is as little as taking one online class for now until I get a little more time. I have to start somewhere.

Now the deciding factor is What to Study?

Fashion? (which I've started and already have credits under my belt)

Graphics?

Communications?

Psychology?

Which are all of my interest!

I'm stuck..... any advice would be good advice.

The Numbers Game

2010-12-08T16:22:00.000-08:00

So for 2 days, Facebook had The Numbers Game going on. The object of the game = someone sends you a random number to your inbox and you have to write the way you feel/what you think about that person on your status using the number. It was quite interesting. I felt like this was something positive because you never know what someone may be going through and to tell them how you feel could possibly put a smile on their face or make their day. To read the responses and descriptions of myself made me feel good. Made me feel like I was doing something right. I didn't get big headed or anything..but I wanted to remember the words from everyone participating. Therefore I decided to copy them to my blog so if ever I am having a bad day this would be a nice little pick me up.

giiiiirl!!! I remember we had a love(play hate) relationship! u always kept me laughin! hahaha you are beyond CREATIVE, motivated, positive, beautiful and overall a fantastic person! I can't wait to see u succeed in all ur dreams! you gonna be big, and I just need one favor and that's DESIGN my reception dress!!! :)
-Tnaya

I can't even remember the last time I've seen you its been too long but we go wayyyy back so no matter how far apart or how many years go by we'll always be true friends! You've become such a beautiful person both inside and out and you got hella style.... fuck Vera Wang, when I get married I'm having you design my dress ♥
-Latanya

‎007 who do you think you are james bond.. one of my ride or dies and super amibitious!
-david

i remember comin across your blog and instantly relating lol your like the sweetest person on earth! Im very blessed we met and i wish we spent more time hangin out cus we had fun gettin lost in the parkin garage lol
-Angelica

-U and I have a connection..u know one of my biggest secrets..God told me it was ok to tell you :) thank you so much for the support and I wish you nothing but love and success...u are extremely talented and u have a beautiful personality..
-Love

-Well I guess I'm in the game too lol. When I first met you I was like you are the one driven,beautiful,smart,positive just all rounded we never did really get a chance because we always stayed so far as with you always had someone. But I'm glad that it didn't happen because you met your mr right I met my ms.right. I'm thankful to have you as a best friend even if its from a far
-Jojo

-Agent #007. Awww. Where do I start. The lil sister I never had. One of the realest females I have ever met in my life(real talk). Smart,independent,& got that pretty girl swag. & it is funny we were neighbors for soooo long and never said a word to each other lol. Miss you & Lav. Love y'all like fam seriously. # I miss the futon :)
-Dre

-u always have to be different.. hence the "007" rather than #7! Lol. Ive know u for years, u designed my baby shower cards, u sent my baby a box of goodies and i still havent met u!! So frickin weird. I consider u family! U are a true friend, motivated and determined.. dont change that ♥ ya ..hope to meet u soo. Lmao
-Monique

-A beautiful and talented young woman destined for greatness....Glad I got the chance to meet you and do some work wit you...We just getting started...
-Lamar

-Miss #007 my best friend, God mother to my oh so beautiful daughter! Lol. I love you to death! You are ALWAYS here for me when I need someone to talk to. We haven't talked on the phone in like 6 weeks! Look what textin', facebook and twitter has done to us. But no matter how we do it we communicate. Anything you need E...VER you know I got you. You are destined to do BIG things. You already started!
-Jessica

-you were and still are a young beautiful BlacC women that i never had a problem wit..
-Marikha

-we don't know each other too well, but we have mutual friends. I am aware of your graphic design skill and I read your blog from time to time. I wish you much success, I anticipate seeing more from you graphically, I also anticipate coming over for dinner one of these days for a good homecook meal via your boyfri...end lol . Thanks for all the love and support know that you have mines in-turn.
-Keiara

-geeze a person who truly will forever hold a place n my heart. I kno we all arent as close as we once were but im glad to kno we have all grown up to b amazingly caring people. U have always been my friend LITERALLY ALWAYS even when u prolly shouldnt have. And i am more than thankful to have gone thru this life w u as one of my closest TRU FRIENDS. I love u so
-Steph

-thanks for teaching me how to be nice and be a good boy friend only thing I want now is some of that good ol catfish of yours miss that shit a lot
-Andre

LoveRevolutiion's vision board

2010-12-08T16:18:00.001-08:00

Remember when I told you all to make your vision boards and if you do so, I will post it? Well if I said it, I meant it.

I enjoy seeing peoples vision and with the faith that I do have..I know you will see it unfold right before your eyes. (as long as you work toward it)

check her out @LoveRevolutiion

and continue sending me your vision boards. lets work on making these visions your reality. sincerelydaja@gmail.com

The Cross Walk of Life

2010-12-07T12:22:00.000-08:00

The Cross Walk of Life
We complain about the cross we bear but don’t realize it is preparing us for the dip in the road that God can see and we cannot.

Cell phones are the problem, not me. I promise!

2010-12-04T23:38:00.000-08:00

I've been having cell phone problems since October. When I went back to Pennsylvania to visit, I got a little intoxicated and ended up dropping my phone Blackberry (red). The ball fell out for the 2nd time but only this time I didn't feel it was worth paying another $30 to replace it. I had the phone for over 2 years and I was so over it.. I wasn't on a contract so I wasn't eligable for an upgrade or anything(so they said). Then came along the black Blackberry (middle phone). After about 3 wks of loving this phone...it just stopped working. Come to find out it had water damage. So sensitive. So I had to go back to my red phone. Even with the black blackberry, I had got it off of someone so there wasn't any insurance. So having the red phone again for another week motivated me to try and find a way to get an upgrade. I went to tmobile and they're always assholes..so I went to Radio Shack. They worked with me and I got a brand new phone, no money down. I fell in love with the MotorBlur (Android family). So I've had this phone for exactly one month and a few days. Today just HAD to be the day when my hands were full and the phone fell and broke! Now I'm back to the red phone. Only problem is..it doesn't work anymore.. BUT I DO have insurance on my MotorBlur so tomorrow can't get here fast enough so I can get it replaced.

I was so anxious to get home and update with some new blogs I've came up with but those ideas were in my phone.

-sigh-

I have NO luck or patience with phones anymore.

BUT I've noticed that when I am without a cell phone or my cable..I am so much more productive. I don't have time to sit and lounge around and kill time. I find time to do whats important.!. So this may be a GOOD thing for me.

Sincerely Daja x Fev Eligante'

2010-12-01T13:13:00.001-08:00

Click here to download

I must say, I'm quite impressed (not that I doubted him or anything lol) but I respect anybody that is on their grind and has love for their work. You definitely can tell how serious someone is within the quality in ones art. His through the music, mine through the graphics. Great collab and I'd definitely work with him again.

Nicki x Lil Kim = My Opinion

2010-11-27T11:28:00.000-08:00

Okay, this Nicki Minaj vs. Lil Kim "beef" is getting a little ugly.

I am 23yrs old. So going through middle school and high school, Kim was representing for the ladies hard.. with the likes of Eve, Remy Ma, Missy Elliot and a whole bunch of others. Kim stood out with her hardcore sexual rhymes, colorful wigs, barbie branding, and being Biggies openly side chick. We respected her for never holding back, and saying things we could relate to but were too "good girl" to admit we felt.

Now lets fast forward a little. I came into liking Nicki Minaj in 2007 when she was still an underground artist. Her rhymes were hardcore, sexual and unapologetic. Similar to Kim but never a comparison. Just something refreshing being as though Kim hadn't been heard from, Remy was locked up and Eve switched roles from rapping to acting and fashion. Well somewhere in between Nicki fell into the Barbie branding. It worked for her and she ran with it. Never once did she disrespect Kim in doing so. In fact, I remember her giving her props a few times. If Kim opened the door for females rappers ; Nicki, Diamond, Trina, etc. then they should definitely be allowed to walk through it.

This is where things got ugly. Nicki being signed to Young Money was like winning the lotto. She got popular really fast and everybody wanted her featured on their song. She was the only female rapper in the industry full of men. With that being said, this would've been the perfect opportunity for Kim to come in and join her. Had they both collaborated on a song and pushed the Barbie brand to the next level, they BOTH would be getting money and putting us women on a different level. It would be something epic that we've been trying to do for years. Join forces in a male dominated industry and give Hip Hop something other than beef, hate, and separation. Everyone speaks on her gimmick but who likes a boring rapper? Especially a boring female rapper?

Every time Kim was interviewed, Nicki's name was brought up. Every video with Kim in it, Nicki's name was brought up. We all new who Nicki was talking to in Romans Revenge. But can we blame her? For someone you respect and look up to for so long to disrespect you is a slap in the face. Nicki could have carried Lil Kim's crown (no I am not saying Nicki has the crown because she still has plenty to prove). I personally feel like Kim did everything she was suppose to do and it was her time to stop rapping. To be the Queen, sometimes means to sit back and let the ones who are stealing your swag make a fool of themselves. Don't become the fool by trying to diss them because you will eventually look like a hater and its sadly but definitely too late.

I will not sit here and call Nicki Minaj the Queen of Hip Hop though because we cannot disregard where her inspiration came from. She has yet to make any classic songs or albums for that matter but her timing is right. The people want Nicki and I just think instead of being mad at her for getting her money, let her be great without their being hate. In reading this, I'm sure you all think I am a Nicki fan/stan but that's NOT what it is. I do see her being around for awhile so either you love her or hate her. But I pick NO sides. I've noticed though, no matter if you're on Nicki's side or Lil Kim's side, even if they come out with wack stuff, some of you will side with them til the wheels fall off. LOL. Personally they both should talk to Kim Kardashian and find out who her plastic surgeon is because that is something they both failed on. =)

Black Friday

2010-11-26T02:43:00.000-08:00

Why do we call this day "BLACK FRIDAY"?
It is when retailers' balance sheets supposedly move out of the red (red ink was used by accountants of old to indicated losses) and into the black (the color of ink you want to see if you have a really high-paying job as a CEO)
......

I am already over Black Friday and its only 2:44am. I mean, I wish I had the patience to stand in line and wait for the doors to open but I really don't. I thought I was being slick by staying home and shopping online but after I finished up my To Do List.. by 2:30am the 2 things I went to purchase were all "out of stock". Thankfully I only have 2 ppl left to shop for. If any of you are out there in the madness, PLEASE be careful! I know its called Black Friday but I don't want to see any Black Eyes.

Be Thankful

2010-11-24T12:28:00.000-08:00

Thanksgiving is tomorrow. This is the one holiday that always reminds me to be thankful.

I am thankful for every single thing in my life because I do know that everything that is happening or has happened is exactly how it is suppose to be. I cannot complain and I won't say because other ppl have it worse because that doesn't change anything in my life. But it does remind me to remain thankful.

I am wishing all of you a Happy Thanksgiving, safe travels, good food, and time spent with your loved ones.

Ladies, please read

2010-11-20T10:46:00.000-08:00

THIS WAS SENT TO MY EMAIL AND I AGREE WITH THIS 110%. I HAVE NO IDEA WHO IS THE ORIGINAL WRITER OF THIS BUT IT'S AMAZING, SO PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ THIS AND COMMENT IF YOU FEEL THE NEED.

I am sending this out to you not because I know you personally or that we are the closest or best of friends but simply because you and I share a similarity. We are women of color. But the things that bond us are so much deeper than that, however it all starts there.

When I first heard of the movie "For Colored Girls" I got so excited. I had the idea of getting as many women together that I could think of to go see this movie. I had visions of group discussions and moments shared with one another that would lead to healing and growth, I guess I kind of imagined a Womens Empowerment Conference type of setting.

Well after I shared my idea with a few women, reality set in and I realized that so many of us wouldn't be willing to participate for various reasons: You don't like me, you don't care for somebody I might invite, you only hang out with certain people, you don't understand the big deal about Tyler Perry making yet another movie about black people and our issues for all the world to see, you don't like crowds, so n so is too ghetto, such and such is too uppity etc... It has ALWAYS amazed me that we as black women are each others biggest critics. We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each others faults and nit pick at a sister until she has nothing left, nothing left to give and then we step over her and call her worthless. We take the prettiest women and tear them down for thinking "they are cute" but turn around and dog the average sista because "she know she should take better care of herself than that - can't believe she got a man!" We call strong women female dogs and accuse weaker women of riding somebody else's coat tails. We tell a big sista to put down her burger and turn around and criticize a skinny woman for not picking one up. We ride the loud mouth woman for "talking to darn much" and likewise torment the quiet woman for "Being too quiet and needing to take up for herself" Sad part is we don't discriminate, we talk about everybody!!!

I've watched women dog out everybody from Oprah for catering to white people and Halle Berry for not being able to keep a man to young Willow Smith for acting to darn grown in her recent video. All of these females are successful and there is something about each one of them to be proud of but a lot of us can't seem to see that. I have to wonder since we all
share a common thread (whether we want to admit it or not) is there something about ourselves that we don't like, what has happened to us that we cannot seem to get along. Why is that we fight amongst ourselves, backstab & steal each others men(only to find out we should have left him where we found him). We cannot seem to be unified to support and stick up for one another. Everybody seems to be out for themselves while other groups unite against us but nobody else has to bring us down because we trample on the spirits of each other daily.

Even if you live in a mini mansion, drive a luxury car, have good credit, rich handsome husband etc, this does not mean that should look down your nose at the woman with 4 kids, no husband, living in income based housing struggling to keep her lights on. We ALWAYS think the grass is greener on the other side, I had a woman who's child father is MIA tell me that I should never complain because I receive a decent amount of child support and I laughed and let her know that I would gladly give every dime back if he would come relieve some of this
overwhelming pressure of feeling inadequate as a parent. If I could get just one full night of sleep or not always be on the verge of losing my job because Im the one that has to call off or leave work for one reason or another to accommodate my child - yeah he could DEFINITELY have his money if I could have some peace! Money alone doesn't make you happy
(not true happiness), good credit doesn't keep you satisfied, beauty doesn't make you any less insecure, fame doesn't make you less vulnerable or cause you to be a good judge of character and being stuck up and mean doesn't keep you warm at night or prevent you from being lonely.

You don't know how the sista sitting right next to could have carefully
put on her make up this morning to hide the beating from last night. The teacher you handed your child over to this morning could have sent her children off to school from a dark house with empty bellies. The teller you just got rude with at the bank could know that today is her last day on her job and have no idea how she is going to survive past next weekend. The sista at the office that appears so busy could be typing her goodbyes to all the people that she loves because she plans to blow her brains out tonight after she tucks her babies into bed. The woman you pass in the hallway could be on her way to have an abortion because
she fears what others might think or how the woman that sent you this e-mail may drink an over abundance of alcohol every night to mask the nightmares of an abusive childhood.

Ladies we HAVE TO DO BETTER!!! I'm not suggesting that we all like each other and be phony, But I am asking that we all try to respect each other. You HAVE NO IDEA what the next woman is going through, you don't know what past or current hurt and pains have shaped her into who she is today. We spend so much time trying to be as strong and hard as we are expected to be that we end up cracking from the inside out piece by piece. If we would spend 1/3 of the time we spend tearing each other down to build someone up, encourage someone, show someone some love, we could truly make a difference and save someone's life. PLEASE don't be the straw that breaks another woman's back. Believe me when I tell you
that there is a woman out there that needs your smile, your hug, your support, your prayer.

I hope that you read this and get something out of it other than a laugh and that you pass this on to as many women as you can to let someone know that you believe they are somebody special and that if need be you are available to listen. Nothing bad is going to happen if you don't forward this e-mail but I'd like to think that something positive will
happen if you choose to pass it along. May favor be extended to each and everyone of your lives, keep your head up and know that someone somewhere cares!!!

Damn You Auto Correct!

2010-11-17T11:16:00.001-08:00

I was blog searching and laughed out loud when I saw Bleed For Fashion's Just for laughs blog

So I went to DamnYouAutoCorrect to get my 7 laughs of the day and decided to share some with my viewers...lets laugh today.

For Colored Girls.

2010-11-15T11:49:00.000-08:00

I will rate this movie a 9.5 only because nothing is perfect..lol naw but this movie was more than I expected. I highly recommend any WOMAN to please check it out. If you have nobody to go with, don't be afraid to go by yourself. I was so into this movie that I sat back and thought about my life as For Colored Girls played out in front of my eyes. I was trying to figure out where I went wrong (if that was the case), which character portrayed me the best and what changes must I make to become a better woman. Ultimately our happiness and well being is very important and no matter what goes on in your life...Love yourself, on purpose!

Have you seen For Colored Girls?

What were your thoughts on this movie?

Did you see yourself in any character? (you do not have to answer which one)

What would you rate this movie?

Ladies, listen up.

2010-11-12T11:05:00.000-08:00

I look at a relationship as two people sharing one world and growing from one another. When you have been with someone for a significant amount of time and you see yourself being with that person for the rest of your life but they fail to commit, give them an ultimatum because to stay with them and not grow is to just stay with them and tolerate them. To tolerate is to settle and when you settle you are definitely not growing.

Steve Harvey is talking to us again! (below)

"You can tell your children all day, "if you don't do this, that and the other, you're going to be in big trouble," but until you show them what will happen to them if they do it again, they will keep testing you. Men will not do anything with out reason and the reason we do most things is so that we can get your attention. We do things to impress you and we listen to and abide by your rules and requirements if the consequences of not doing so mean we're going to lose you. My friends grandmother once said, "The finest woman in the world is your ex in the arms of another man" The woman we've been intimate with, lived with, built a future with, on the arm of another man, we can't stand that.

Sure there's a chance that when you make that ultimatum, he'll move on. Let him go. If he is willing to walk away from what you had to offer, he was a non contender anyway. Sure you invested time in this guy, sure you love him, sure you want to be with him, but you also want what you want and have the right to want that commitment from him. You have the right to stand firm on this. He may move on but if he has searched his heart and he loves you, he'll stay. Either way, long term, you win because the world is full of men willing to commit."

Teach me how to dougie? Naw, teach me how to study

2010-11-10T12:23:00.000-08:00

now this is what I'm talkin' about..
we need MORE of this.
and shout out to ol' girl doing the Carlton dance, lol I see you.

Sticks and Stones..

2010-11-10T11:13:00.000-08:00

I never really understood the whole "sticks and stones may break your bones but words could never hurt me"...because in fact words DO hurt. Especially from those you love and claim they love you. People will judge you and try to kick you when you're down but when it comes from someone you share memories with and would hope to be a part of your future, you tend to trust less.

Or atleast I do.

Someone close to me said some very hurtful and discouraging things to me..

which made me want to just give up and start over..

they went on to say more things which hurt more...then I got really sad and tried to figure it all out but then the longer I sat there in silence and thought of everything that was said..

I had to remember, nobody ever gave me shit.. Nobody helped me get where I am today except God. I dont ask people for nothing! so WHY THE HELL would I let them bring or take my joy? I won't. The ONLY person you need to be there for you is GOD. You have to believe in something and that should be yourself.. so FUCK anybody that can't pick you up and help you rise. Your enemies are everywhere, trying to take what they can get from you. You just have to be wise enough to know who they are. Family and Friends can be enemies too.. so don't put your all into other people. They'll disappoint you everytime!

and that is my motivation to continue doing what I am doing! If being myself seems mediocre to you, then don't pay attention to me. Do you!

2010/2011 Vision Board

2010-11-07T23:41:00.000-08:00

The law of attraction states that we attract into our lives anything that we give attention to, regardless whether it be positive or negative.

A vision board is simply a visual representation or collage of the things that you want to have, be, or do in your life. It consists of a poster or foam board with cut-out pictures, drawings and/or writing on it of the things that you want in your life or the things that you want to become. The purpose of a vision board is to activate the law of attraction to begin to pull things from your external environment that will enable you to realize your dream. By selecting pictures and writing that charges your emotions with feelings of passion, you will begin to manifest those things into your life. - Tristan Loo

How many of you have seen or read The Secret? If you are unfamiliar, please take the time to research some of the studies, check out the book at your local library or order the movie/book on Amazon. The motivation I receive each time I watch it is beyond amazing. Now not EVERYONE will be inspired by it. But you have to ask yourself..... WHAT IS MY VISION FOR MY FUTURE? and whatever your answer may happen to be, take the time out to create your vision on a board and let that keep you motivated throughout your journey. Update as time progress and goals change.

This is my 2nd vision board and I am fully aware that sharing my vision with everyone isn't the smartest thing to do because some ppl will pray AGAINST your dreams but I am willing to take the chance if it happens to inspire others.. And I am not exactly telling you what my visions, dreams, and goals are.. You see my board, you make your assumptions. Anyway, Vision Boards are really FUN to make. So I encourage all of my readers to create your vision and watch your dreams manifest as long as you believe in yourself.

ASK BELIEVE RECEIVE.

P.S. you must know that whatever you speak, will come into existence. Be it negative or positive. So please take out "can't, never, don't want" out of your vocab and began practicing and speaking on what you "do, will and can" do.

(if you have a vision board already made, or if you do make one and would like to share it with my readers email me Sincerelydaja@gmail.com )

Drake Concert in Las Vegas

2010-11-07T22:02:00.000-08:00

Me and my bf were fortunate to get tickets from someone I knew and I could not have asked for a better night and better seats. After work we went straight over to the concert. We missed the opening act and we missed Tygas performance but we made it just in time for Drakes show. Despite him shaking that hand the whole night (insider), he really put on a show. He performed all of the songs we know and love. My highlights of the night were the Aaliyah tribute, the shout out to all of the freshman who came out the same time he did (j.cole, wiz khalifa, wale, etc) and of course Lil Wayne came out and shut it down.. The crowd rushed the stage and wouldn't stop chanting his name. I won't lie, I was too hype (although I saw him in concert before) but nothing was like being there to see his first stage appearance after being locked up for 8months. I got really great pictures and video.. sorry for all of the shaking..I was enjoying the show..lol

enjoy the videos below...

Aaliyah Tribute pt.1

Aaliyah Tribute pt.2

Lil Waynes Homecoming pt.1 (sorry for the shakey video)

Lil Waynes Homecoming pt.2

Can't we all just get along..

2010-11-04T23:41:00.000-07:00

Why is it that us women would rather hate another, rather than come together?

I've blogged on this last year but it's obviously a problem bigger than me, being as though it is still happening and actually getting worse. We would rather talk shit about the next chick that is trying to do her thing (yes, I've been guilty of this too) instead of encouraging her to keep being herself and to do what makes her happy..

I absolutely hate when I acknowledge another chick that is staring me down and decide to smile at her, and she rolls her eyes. Or if I compliment another chick and she doesn't appreciate the compliment.. like what? Is your day really that bad or are you really that mad that your bag is cute.? You women confuse me.

Another thing alot of men have brought to my attention is us as women don't dress for them (men), we dress for eachother. We always want to be the flyest, be the first to rock something, make a bold statement so that when another chick does the same, we have to brag and boast that we were first. Now I can see why they would say that but then again, me personally I dress to impress myself and I'm sure that statement was "politically correct" but its the honest truth. I'm comfortable in my skin therefore I don't feel the need to dress for anybody but myself and my man.

I'm sure I contradict myself because yes, I get mad when I see a sloppy girl that can use a little help but thats me wanting to help her, not hate on her. I'm sure I've talked about chicks in the past but it happens. That doesn't make it right but I honestly LOVE to work with women. Women that are on their grind is a beautiful thing to me. Successful women that have their priorities in order and can take care of home is a beautiful thing to me.

The next time another girl tries to make you feel less of a woman whether it's through an ignorant statement, a sarcastic look, or whatever it may be.. just laugh at her, she's truly lost. But the next time a woman tries to befriend you (for the right reasons of course) embrace that. We need more LOVE in the world. We see enough hate, jealousy, and envy..let's try something new.

and ladies, please STOP saying "I don't have female friends/I don't hang out with girls/Girls are messy" that bugs the hell out of me. MEN are messy too! and if ALL the chicks you have ever hung out with are that much of a problem..I don't think it's them. I think it's you!

Screen shots of Kanye live on Ustream

2010-11-04T23:34:00.000-07:00

I didn't get to watch it live but when I got home from work I made sure to get caught up in it and while watching I decided to get a few screen shots.. I love me some Kanye and his IDGAF attitude. He may make y'all sick but there would be no such thing if everyone made you happy. =)

Update

2010-11-03T16:22:00.001-07:00

"A Wise (wo)man learns by the mistakes of others, a fool by her own"

- Hill Harper

I'm getting into the habit of saving saving saving..

There are so many things I want to do.. ie; put a down payment on a house, start my clothing business, etc. but I always find myself slipping back into old habits.

My new goal is

The money I attempt to spend on clothes, shoes & wants, I will put that exact amount into savings.

Lets see how this works. At the moment I am doing okay.

Um, I have a new phone. I was going back and forth between 2 blackberry phones and they both were so much of a headache. I finally decided to upgrade myself (lol) and get a Motorblur Android. I absolutely LOVE this phone because its a mix between iPhone (touch screen & apps) and a blackberry (key pad). Other than that.. I am maintaining and very blessed. Although I am finding myself getting comfortable, I know comfort doesn't allow me to grow so I have to find a way to break my constant routine. Hope everyone is well..

btw. I have a TUMBLR account.. Its takin me plenty of debating and contemplating but I finally followed through and just made an account today. If you have one, follow me on there

sincerelydaja.tumblr.com

Beyonce with NO makeup..

2010-11-03T16:17:00.001-07:00

is basically..killing your favorite singer.. I love me some Bey.

Note to Self

2010-11-02T11:34:00.000-07:00

#IAMHipHopConcert

2010-11-02T11:29:00.000-07:00

If you are in the L.A. area.. 2 words = BE THERE!!!!

visit www.GraceyisMissDiddy.com for more information.

Procrastination is to Failure what Sleep is to Death

2010-10-31T23:30:00.000-07:00

they're cousins..so how are we related?

I want to be able to say I have no relations to sleep or procrastination but I would be lying. Now, before I go any further, sleeping is healthy. In fact, you need sleep to preserve your energy. But there is a difference between sleeping when you are tired and sleeping when you are lazy. If you don't work, you don't eat. If you don't work, you shouldn't sleep. Don't sleep, don't lay around, don't complain.

Procrastination is the worst and first step to failure because to try isn't to fail. To try and not make it is an easier way to see a mistake and go back at it with a different plan. But to sit around and talk about it but no action to come behind it is setting yourself up for failure. Why wait? Once you start, the abundance of support and the motivation to keep you going will be so fulfilling. Don't be a procrastinator. Just DO IT! Turn the doubters and haters into believers.

The craziest thing happened to me a few days ago. I saw an opportunity for me that would have been amazing! I kept sitting around saying I am going to do this..2 days went by and it still wasn't done. When I finally got the courage to do it that day it was already too late. Someone else saw that opportunity. Instead of waiting 2 days, they took it and grasped it. While I was "going to do it" someone had "already done it". Don't let that be you. That was motivation enough for me to see instead of being the one that is "going to do" something, be the one who has "already done it". Learn from my mistakes. Don't copy my mistakes. Don't procrastinate.

Eye Candy? I think so.

2010-10-28T11:44:00.000-07:00

I can sit here and look at Nicki Minaj's video allllllll day as long as he continues to pop up on my screen. What is his name? Where is he from? Does he like Seafood and Soul food? Does he have a girlfriend? lol...okay maybe I'm overreacting..but he is beautiful.

Marcus Troy’s 10 Rules To Personal Growth & Success

2010-10-28T11:37:00.000-07:00

1. Don’t use people
Never call upon people only when you need something. If you never call them for months to just say hello, but the minute you know they can help you, you give them a shout that is not cool. When I see certain number on my phone my first thought is I wonder what they want from me now. You never want to be that person in someone’s phone book.

2. Offer help first
Always offer to help people first, the minute you offer help or your services that call won’t be so awkward. This should be it’s own rule but: Always take care of the people who help you out in any way you can, no matter what.

3. Invest in your progress.
If it cost you money to make a long distance call to someone to discuss an opportunity or an idea, make it happen. If you have to drive somewhere far and spend money on gas for an opportunity make it happen. If you need to get on a plane just to connect with someone for 5 minutes, do what you have to do. Too many people decided not to make that call, or that trip and that might end up being something that can change their life. I’ve gotten on planes just to make a meeting happen because I knew the opportunity had the potential to be great. (it never worked out mind you but it was still worth it for personal growth)

4. Don’t hide behind emails or text messages.
If you have to call someone to talk about something, make it happen. It is really easy to say oh I sent you an email and I never heard back from you. Connect with people face to face or on the phone. Too many times people rather send you an email of bad news or even send you an email to avoid talking to you or just to say they reached out.

5. Be generous
Share your time, thoughts, ideas and things. I’ve notice the people who decide to be greedy and keep everything to themselves loose the most in the long run. The more you give, the more you receive, it is just the law of the universe. If you get 2 give away 1, it is as simple as that. Sometimes if you don’t have, still give what you can… don’t be greedy, share. There is enough of everything for everyone.

6. Don’t be annoying
Allow things to happen organically which means give it its time. If something is urgent you are more than welcome to follow up and you can also be persistent but don’t become a bother. It is easier for someone to cut you off than to put you on.

7. Don’t abuse your friendships or put people in compromising situations.
Never put people in a situation where you have their back up against a wall, they will start to despise you. Don’t ever name drop a friends name or bring a friend into a situation that he or she has nothing to do it, especially in business. Some people will use your name in order to make things happen for themselves, that’s not cool. You know those kind of people: “Hey I know so and so make this happen for me?”

8. Don’t abuse the power of social media
We are all part of social media networks for different reasons so it does not mean we want to be spammed or bombarded with your music of your new projects. There is an etiquette that needs to be followed. When you are constantly @’ing people who don’t even follow you about your projects, you are doing yourself a great disservice. They start to hate everything you stand for and will never give you shine. Don’t constantly promote your projects on others people’s Facebook wall’s that is the most annoying thing you do especially since a lot of people use facebook as a personal media network.

If people choose to follow you or be your friend you have every right to promote your projects on your respective side, but don’t start abusing the people who have not subscribed to what you are doing.

9. Be respectful
You never know who is going to be who or who you might need to call upon or do a favor for or even work for, so always be kind and respectful. The person you might shit on might end up being the person who opens or closes a door for you.

10. Become a person of your word.
No one likes excuses even the worse ones. If you say you are going to do something, like make a phone call or submit a project or pay someone, whatever it may be, try and stick to what you say! People put a lot of stock in what you tell them so you don’t want the reputation of someone who is unreliable.

People love working with people that they can depend on and that are reliable. You can have all the talents in the world but if you are not reliable you are worthless.

(via: hustlegrl)
(Source: marcustroy.com)

your next 24 hours.. (motivation)

2010-10-27T14:22:00.001-07:00

I think about this each time I get lazy and yes I do get lazy but each time I am wasting time, I feel bad..like I could use the time I spend on facebook and twitter to get something done. Instead of laying around in bed watching t.v. I could be doing something with that time.

-do 1 thing a day that could get you 1 step closer to your dream.

your friend and partner, alone?

2010-10-27T13:33:00.000-07:00

Numbers don't lie and if leaving your friend alone with your man/girl depends on the friend.. maybe, just maybe you should reconsider who your "friends" are.

Tell a Friend to tell 10

2010-10-24T00:27:00.001-07:00

I still do graphics..
My latest design. Mixtape Cover for Fev Eligante'

Lets Get Carried Away!

2010-10-24T00:25:00.000-07:00

Lets have fun..
In order, from your favorite to your least favorite, which Carrie/Keri/Kerry would you choose? and why?

My pick would have to be Kerry Washington, Carrie Underwood and then Keri Hilson.Why? because whoever Kerry Washingtons stylist is, always finds the right type of garment that flatters her. Her acting is believable, and she hasn't disappointed me yet.
I love Carrie Underwoods country singing -bleep- and she is good to look at.
I just don't see it for Keri Hilson..sorry!

P.S. I make 95% of the designs that go onto my website..unless stated otherwise

your soon to be ex wife

2010-10-24T00:23:00.001-07:00

I found this pic floating around the internet.

OUCH!! I wouldn't want to be Steven..you done effed up now.
If you found out your fiance' was cheating, would you go to this extreme?

Everyday A Star Is Born

2010-10-23T23:27:00.001-07:00

welcoming my bestfriends babygirl into this world.
i think i'm more excited than anybody..lol

MILANIA (mi-lawny-ah) ROSE GRAHAM
congratulations Jessica and Quentin. I hope things go smooth for you both. Love ya.

Ladies, lets toast to this.

2010-10-23T01:04:00.001-07:00

Did you guys see this past weeks episode of Jersey Shore.?. I just HAD to jump on my computer and make this.. Did Vinny not make you wish you had of Tivo'd it and replayed it back for your man.. after he said this, all of you should have threw your hands up and start fist pumping. I know I did. If only all men thought this way, we would live in peace.. lol #teamVINNY!

Fear of Failure..

2010-10-23T01:00:00.000-07:00

Beat Cancer!

2010-10-23T00:58:00.000-07:00

I always tend to support things when they hit close to home. That encourages me to find out as much information about it as I can. This is me showing my support if you have ever lost someone due to (breast) cancer or know someone who is fighting it. I support the fight!

If any of you have something showing that you are supporting the cause, send it to me and I will be happy to post it on my website. Whether its pictures from a walk, your yogurt sealed tops, a breast cancer tshirt, a story, etc. Send them my way Sincerelydaja@gmail.com

be careful who you keep in your circle

2010-10-22T12:04:00.000-07:00

Happy Birthday To Me!

2010-10-20T00:05:00.000-07:00

i shaved the left side of my head.. wanted to do something i normally wouldnt do coming into my 23rd year of living..and i can honestly say i feel so liberated..i am so excited to see what is to come for my future. this is the beginning and hopefully you all will be rolling with me through my journey. thanks to everyone for always showing love. whether you read or comment, you are appreciated. tell a friend to tell 10! muah.

how original ARE you?

2010-10-19T12:26:00.001-07:00

if something or someone inspires you to do something, do it but make it your own. make your personality shine within everything that you do; hair styles, wardrobe, twitter, etc. be the best YOU that you can be.

oh thats what you REALLY meant to say = total BS breakup lines

2010-10-19T12:21:00.000-07:00

this just made me think back to some of the wack dudes i've had in my life..i think i've heard 1 or 2 of these before..

Would you be mad if I start whipping my hair back and forth?

2010-10-19T12:16:00.000-07:00

she makes me want to be a kid again.

i LOVE the fact that Will and Jada are letting her be great. Not including themselves in her interviews and appearances. Jada mentioned that she let her have her own style and choices but they will guide her and I think it's a smart decision. Sometimes as a child WE want to feel like we have control over what we do. Now boundaries are very important but to truly live your life as a child, is to have a little freedom and knowing our parents aren't too far behind if we get off track.

i LOVE the fact that she is still acting like a 9yr old!

Now i want to go and whip my hair and paint my walls..lol

Alive or Just Breathing?

2010-10-16T12:30:00.000-07:00

No Seriously..Are you?
Are you doing what you LOVE to do? or are you doing what you HAVE to do?
I know its cliche to say "live your life to the fullest" but really you have to because you only live once. You'll spend so much time saying "I want to do this, I cant wait to do that" next thing you know you are 65 years old with arthritis bitter and mad at the world because it moved on and you are still working at Walmart (no offense if you are) but the point is..do what makes you happy. You control it..So control it.

credit for this photo: krissybelle

What does your growth ladder tell you?

2010-10-15T10:49:00.000-07:00

I believe that in everything you do, you should see growth. Relationships, skills, jobs, etc. Just think of it as a ladder. You don't want to stand on the bottom step for years and continue to look up do you? Well I dont know about you but I'm tryna climb that thing and kick off whatever is in my way. I decided to depart from my second job. I saw no growth. In fact I was so busy working for something that didn't benefit me that I became disgusted. The time and hard work I put into it made me weak.. I spent alot of time complaining to my friends and family about how depressed I was but wasn't sure if I was making the right decision. I eventually got tired of complaining and decided to do something about it.

Although the money was helpful, it wasn't enough to keep me there disatisfied. Sometimes we let money be the reason we settle. In my opinion Money doesn't equal happiness. SOOO from here on out the days that I spent slaving for that place will now be spent on building my brand.. I now introduce you to my new official logo below.. It only gets better from here.

Check out what my girl Deonna featured on her Tumblr.. Ahh I love this girl.

Usual Suspects (Feat. Nas) by Rick Ross

THIS SONG, SO REMINDS ME OF ME & DAJA!! & ALL MY GO-GETTER INDIVIDUALS. MAKING A WAY OUT OF NO WAY.

“FROM NOTHIN’, TO SOMETHIN’, YOU KNOW US —WE THE USUAL SUSPECTS!!

THE SWAGGER OF THE SONG IS JUST SO SMOOTH, LIFE IS HARD BUT WE TAKE IT ALL, HANDLING OBSTACLES, DISAPPOINTMENTS, UNEXPECTED EMERGENCIES & EVEN HEARTBREAK —GRACEFULLY. SALTUE!!

“I DON’T OWE YOU [YOU PEOPLE] NOTHIN’, THROW ME TWO FINGERS WHEN YOU SEE [YA GIRL] STUNTIN’” -I CHANGED A WORD OR TWO, MADE IT MY OWN [LAUGHS]

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Save The Boobies

2010-10-13T12:04:00.000-07:00

Last year I was able to attend the Breast Cancer Walk here in Las Vegas, NV. Unfortunately this year I was out of town..but if you're interested check out my post from last year by clicking here -> Are You Aware <-
Metallic Big Pony Polo
Price: $90.00

I LOVE the Pink Pony Collection Ralph Lauren did for Breast Cancer month. If you are into Polos then this is definitely for you. They also have TShirts, Sweats, Umbrellas, etc. It may cost you a pretty penny but if you don't have the money..its cute to look at. (speaking to self) lol.

much love to Starbucks for this

2010-10-11T01:16:00.001-07:00

credit for this photo : Student Radical

Jersey Shore Boys Just Taught Me How To Dougie!

2010-10-11T01:12:00.000-07:00

- i was in a sad mood but this picked me up so fast..i had to watch it twice.!.

If you can't be used, you are useless.

2010-10-09T10:26:00.000-07:00

I've been saying this for awhile now and when I look back at previous relationships (friends, men, family etc) the bells in my ear ring louder, harder, and faster. I've come across those who will come to you with a sob story, asking for help.. You do all that you can to help them get on their feet but once they get on and no longer need you..you no longer see them or hear from them.

Hell some may even act as if they never knew you.

Some of us help to the point of enabling. When you are at someones every beck and call, they depend on you for everything. You then become an enabler because you dont give them the chance to try to make it on there own. We must learn to become help but from a distance. It's okay to say no at times, its also okay to say yes at times. Just don't let yes turn into everytime.

And over the past few months I've realized some people will ask for help not because they need you but simply because they're lazy. If someone ask you to do something they themselves can get done..Don't do it.

"If you can't be used, you are useless" but dont let someone use you so much that you have nothing left to give to those who may later down the road REALLY need your help.

My Pennsylvania Recap

2010-10-07T13:08:00.000-07:00

Day One: I spent my night with the fellas..and I ended up throwing up everywhere but they took care of me.!. Shout out to good men out there.
Day Two: The day of my bff's baby shower. We had lots of fun and ate GOOD!
Day Three: Left Jessica and met up with my dad and met my baby brother Kristian for the first time. Bitter Sweet.
Day Four: Me, my cousin Rachel and my dad went to the Coliseum and played arcade games..it was FUN! then we went bowling. The score 38-65-125 guess who had which score? Then we went back to my grandparents house for my early birthday dinner and my step mom brought my baby brother over again.
Day Five: My last day in town. Had an early morning breakfast (my grandpa aka pop pop throws down in the kitchen) met my little cousin Raion.

below..check out my cousin singing Love by Musiq Soulchild.

I'll be back!

2010-10-01T02:40:00.001-07:00

I'm taking a trip from Vegas to Pennsylvania for my best friends baby shower and to visit my family.. I'll be back on the 5th so if you don't hear from me..don't go too far. I have to be at the airport by 5am and the fact that I am waiting until the last minute to pack boggles me. Don't even ask what I've been doing all day besides work. Neways..if I dont get up now..I'll never make it. You guys check out some of my previous blogs, vote in the poll to the right and hit me up on twitter @sincerelydaja if need be.

sleeping positions

2010-09-29T12:08:00.000-07:00

credit for this photo

My sleep pattern consist of : The Leap Frog, The Fetal Punch, The Static Cling

I cant stay in one position too long though..I get sore and numb. Weird I know.

Whats yours?

Flyness Your Highness

2010-09-29T12:04:00.000-07:00

This is one of the dopest kids walking this planet.

Cities Ranked by Penis Size

2010-09-25T21:59:00.000-07:00

I seen this chart inside of a magazine and decided to remake it for my blog viewers to check out. I find it pretty funny that they actually have your city ranked according to your penis size. If you are from any of the top 10 cities, fellas be proud. If you are from any of the bottom 10 fellas, I am shaking my head at you. LOL jk. Enjoy.

Where Does Your Motivation Come From? Poll Answers.

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Friends :
1. a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard.
2. a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter

Friends are probably the best source of motivation but only if your friends are someone you look up to, are on the right path and staying on top of their game in whatever it is they take pride in. Make sure you have friends who are supportive of what you want to do. Be careful of the "friends" that are only around when things are going good in your life.

Competition :

1. the act of competing; rivalry for supremacy, a prize, etc.

The only person you should compete with is yourself. If you are doing something and it becomes too easy..that means it is time to move on to something more challenging. When you are in the same field as others, you will notice the ones who try to compete with you. It honestly shouldn't be about competition because everything you put out should be your best work and from YOUR eyes..NOT from what someone has done previously. There is enough money to go around therefore competition should not be your motivation unless you are competing with who you once were or competing with yourself to become better.

Faith :

1. confidence or trust in a person or thing: faith in another's ability.
2. belief that is not based on proof

To have faith is to be confident and trust that what you set out to do will happen. That means no worry, no stress.. Just let go and work towards the best result; knowing it will work out in your favor. Majority of you chose faith. If your motivation comes from knowing and believing it will come to pass then let go of every doubt you ever have about any dream you've ever dreamt and mark your terrority. Speak its existence and watch how quickly things unfold for you.

Haters :
1. to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest

I was once told "anything motivated by hate cannot be blessed" I believe that with every ounce of me. People brag about having haters. Somethings you cannot control but that should be nothing to be happy about having. People will talk about you whether you are doing good or doing bad. I'd prefer you to do good, live life for YOU and give them something to hate on. But don't let that be your motivation because then and only then is when you give haters power.

you can be sexy without showing too much.

2010-09-23T22:17:00.001-07:00

It saddens me to see women throw themselves out there for attention. If a man wants you he will make it known but when you present yourselves a certain way you will get treated a certain way. Of course with the few acception of some assholes out there that have no respect but make sure whatever you put on...it represents you as the woman you want to be protrayed as. A woman who shows the right amount of skin appears much more confident than the chick showing everything at once. Dress like a whore get treated like one. I think sexiness is all about moderation. If you are going to show off all of your legs then cover up your top half..if you show off cleavage, dont wear a mini dress. Here is an example of classy vs. trashy..

(i made this chart based off the book i am reading. "why men love bitches")

Why Men LOVE Bitches..

2010-09-20T23:18:00.000-07:00

M Y N E W R E A D!

I bought this book because I heard of it once, along with "Why Men MARRY Bitches" but based off of the reviews and the fact that I am not anywhere near marriage...I figured its best to crawl before I walk. The reviews were mainly from men and to hear something from a man's perspective is better when you feel THEY are the issue. The men gave EXCELLENT reviews for this book..so I HAD to order..

I will began reading tomorrow.. I would love to start a book club but I won't do it alone. I read atleast 1-2 books a month so if you're down..let me know. =)

Sideline Chick...Is That You?

2010-09-20T22:53:00.000-07:00

I was on blogspot to comment on post and I read Bri's <<-- click here to check her out) blog and instantly felt every ounce of it..I have no respect for a women who knows a man is in a relationship and continues to pursue him. BUT I will not go further..just read please.
"The infamous side chick, yes the role that many women have played, maybe even you, you know the girl that comes second, sometimes even third or fourth to his main chick, oh yea her, the one he goes home too and is the most loyal too. You see the whole side chick role is much like a car ride. You have the driver, your man, you; the passenger, and HER, the chick in the backseat. In some instances both women are aware of their roles but when the side chick wants to hop in the front seat, or the passenger wants to kick the backseat rider out problems will arise. Both women must know their role and play it, and I mean play it well. Now do I agree with the whole side chick, “girlfriend #2?” Well of course not. In no way shape or form is it okay, BUT if YOU do decide to be a side chick know that you will forever be a back seat rider, and even if his main
somehow flakes out you may get a chance to ride shotgun around the corner but it is only a matter of time before you are kicked to the back or out of the car entirely.

Not every man has a side chick and in my opinion REAL men don’t. Firstly if a man is not ready for a committed relationship then of course he will have side chicks. Women often try to mold men into what they want or “need” them to be. “I want him to be a family man” and he might be that, but if he isn’t ready for a monogamous relationship after he tucks in little Jordan and Lauren he will be out in the streets headed to his side chicks house where he doesn’t have to worry about the kids interrupting sex. Now I am in no way saying that this lifestyle is okay, but what I am saying is that you have to choose a man wisely. If a man isn’t ready to commit, he won’t, you can’t try and mold him into what YOU want him to be. Either he has it or he doesn’t and YOU cannot decide from him.

Now for my ladies who already have a man and want to keep him YOUR man, then I firstly suggest you have expectations. “I expect you to be faithful, loyal and honest with me” now this doesn’t necessarily mean that he will meet the requirements but this goes back to choosing the RIGHT man. But if you are in a relationship and you have the mindset that “men will be men, they all cheat” then he is going to cheat on you. You have opened a door and made a side chick okay because he knows you will forgive him, you already expect him to cheat. Secondly know your place in his life, be the women he needs you to be. You are his rock, you know the saying “Behind every great man is a great woman” be THAT woman. Be his best friend first, and we all know we don’t nag or disrespect our best friends (and if you do you need to reevaluate your
friendships). Only a selfish man will walk away from a woman that is everything he needs her to be, and a selfish man is not a man you want. Selfishness is childish. “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.” 1 Corinthians 13:11
So to all of you beautiful ladies out there, I suggest you take my advice, know that there are men out there who do and always will have side chicks so save yourself the trouble, love YOU first, choose wisely and the rest will fall in place."

something to remember

2010-09-18T12:18:00.001-07:00

"I wonder if heaven got a ghetto"

2010-09-16T00:09:00.001-07:00

In a post a few months back, I expressed my love for 2pac. So this design I made should come as no surprise.. Enjoy.

Take Care of Home!

2010-09-14T14:02:00.000-07:00